Friday, March 19, 2010

Forgiveness


"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."
-Gandhi

My mother asked me to read "Redeeming Love", and lent me her book. It's a novel and with a religious message about forgiveness. And for the record, I believe in all paths to God and did enjoy this book. I'm not finished with it yet, but I feel like I already know the story. It's the story of our life. Not literally, but the forgiveness factor... to have the life we all do now, required lots of courage and strength and lots and lots of forgiveness. (BTW, did you know in the bibles it says to forgive someone 7x77 times? Yeah my mouth dropped too when I read it.) It's a story of forgiveness we should all strive for.

One of the greatest gifts my mother gave me and my siblings was the ability to forgive. She drilled the values of forgiveness into our brains! I think that's the reason I am so close with my siblings. I am the youngest of four. And we all get along. And by get along, I mean we always forgive each other for the stupid things we say and do no matter what. And if by some chance one of us happened to even try to hold a grudge, my mother would be there, telling us life is too short to waste it on anger.

It's sad to see so many people in life holding onto a grudge, to see the petty things they justify in their minds as unforgivable. Forgiving doesn't mean you continue to let someone toxic hurt you over and over, it just means you've let go of the anger and released yourself. And for those who have been viciously and purposely hurt by someone, it's true- forgiveness is only for the strong. This is where the quote holds true.

“Forgiveness is the economy of the heart... forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits.”
- Hanna Moore

I can think of a few people who have recently hurt me that I have yet to forgive, who I thought didn't matter much to me, but I am still angry at the way they treated me. I will never understand why, but I know that I need to forgive them, to release me from this petty anger and time wasted thinking why?

Take a look at your life. Is there someone you need to forgive? Do you need to forgive yourself? Don't waste another second on anger...

Photo by dana_nana

3 comments:

  1. THis book was a tough one, but such a good message. I enjoyed reading it as well. I have a hard time with forgiveness... I want nothing more than to forgive and move on, but I find it's something I have to work to do. Your first quote is one I will keep in mind. Thank you.

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  2. I know some people who didn't treat you very well. And although I agree that forgiveness is a gift, many are undeserving of that. I've always loved your pictures, you have awesome talent... hope you get well soon!

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  3. Oh Ally, thanks... I was expecting what I got though. haha... I'm not upset about that.

    I was talking about some relatives that weren't in my life a lot growing up, I basically asked them to be a part of my life now... and expecting them step up, they didn't want anything to do with me. I didn't understand it, I don't know how someone can just walk away when I didn't do anything wrong to them. They treated me like dirt when I just asked them to be a part of our life. I didn't really have a relationship to begin with, didn't think it'd effect me this much...

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