I saw Roy again last night.
He started off the session with a few questions. He asked if anything monumental had happened in the last week. I said no, not really... but that I did share my struggle with weight loss with a close friend. I didn't mention my blog because I wasn't sure if he knew what a blog was, haha. Roy's a bit older if you know what I mean.
He said opening up about it and talking is good.
I knew this from my old sessions with Dan.
He then asked how the person I shared with responded, and continued to tell me sometimes people don't understand you just need to talk and you're not asking them to fix you. He said sometimes it can be more harmful to you if they don't respond correctly.
I laughed a little, I knew this all too well.
I told him the person I shared with, who is a good friend of mine- she took it okay. She did laugh a little when I mentioned hypnotherapy, and then said, "You just need to stop eating." My face must have said it all because she quickly apologized and said she didn't mean it like that. I didn't take it to heart.
(I wish it was that simple.)
Roy laughed, and asked if I've ever heard the doctor & arm joke. I told him no, and he told me about a man who went to the doctor raised his arm and said, "It hurts when I do this." The doctor's response was, "Well just stop doing that." Roy said, It's never that simple.
He went on talking about the hypnotherapy. He asked if I had ever been hypnotized before. I told him I have, it was a long time ago though. It was at the Ohio State Fair during my FFA years in school. I was probably 15 or 16 at the time. I told him I remember thinking the whole time, am I really hypnotized? I also remember trying to stand up but it felt like a giant weight was on my back.
He said this is good, because then I know it's nothing scary and you're not completely asleep or vulnerable like some people think. You're awake the whole time, what you do is listen to the person talking, focus as best as you can, relax as best you can. He also said I can "wake" myself up if I'm feeling uncomfortable anytime by counting backwards from five to one. He went on to speak about how relaxed I would feel, he said for some people... it's the most relaxed they've ever been in their life.
I then asked him about progressive relaxation and if it was similar. I said I use to do this last year when I saw my old counselor Dan. He suggested it when I was having trouble sleeping. And it worked, it was difficult at first (focusing), but it worked for me.
Roy, seemed a little excited I had done that and said, "Yes, Just like that!"
(If you're curious, progressive relaxation is basically when you listen to someone speaking saying, "relax your toes, relax your feet, relax your ankle... etc." and you try as best you can to focus, breath & do this. Usually when I got to my chest/neck I would start to dose off. This is what I listened to last year: Harriet Brekalo, The Art of Self Healing. You can download it from itunes. I also recommend a pair of headphones, it will help you focus better. I remember getting upset when I couldn't find my headphones last year, it made that much of a difference.)
Roy said that since I have been hypnotized before, and that I use to do progressive relaxation, which is similar to hypnotherapy, that this will probably work well for me.
Some people are more able to be hypnotized than others, for some people... they can't focus, or they laugh and break their focus or don't really believe in the process. If you're that type of person, it probably wouldn't do you a bit of good.
After we talked a little, Roy said we could do a small hypnotherapy session that day if I'd like. I asked him, how it works exactly, I was just curious how this all soaks into your mind. He told me that you put your part of the brain that reasons to sleep, and open up your subconscious. He said there will be a small window and you're more open to suggestions.
Roy then turned all the lights off except for one. It was still bright though, considering it was 5pm and daylight. I felt comfortable. Then he asked me to close my eyes (while I sat in the same chair I was in while we talked, you don't lay down like some people think) and we started.
I don't want to go into detail about what he said, because I've done a little research on hypnotherapy and it can be dangerous if not done correctly, so I've chosen to keep those details out of my blog and only share the general idea of the hypnotherapy sessions.
Basically, he told me when I feel the urge to binge to think of myself when I was happy, at 140lbs. To think of a photo of myself where I felt great, I thought of this photo... back at 4-H camp many years ago! haha That's me in the middle. (Please ignore the scary, plaid pants. lol)
He said to think of this photo when I get the urge, and instead to eat fresh vegetables or fruit, something healthy.
He also said that next time at our hypnotherapy session, that I will be open to the process and will able to return to this state of relaxation easily. He then counted back from 5 to 1 and I slowly "woke up."