Sunday, April 22, 2012

one of those days...

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”

I found myself googling "overwhelmed stay at home mom" today. 

It talked about making sure you get alone time (uh, what's that?) and if you want to be a lot and give a lot, you have to refuel a lot.  Meaning you need a lot of you time.  

Where does that come in?  I can't even fathom asking someone to watch Jack so I can get a massage or pedicure.  My over-active mind quickly judged myself through that person's eyes... I was raised in a way that doing things like that for yourself is selfish.  It's hard to break through walls like that.

I think I really need to start practicing positive thinking, and actively redirecting my mind when it slips into a negative mindset or starts the judging... I am horrible at judging myself through someone else's eyes.

The negative self-talk is getting old, and it's not something I want to pass onto Jack and Jude.  It's not healthy.  I want to think the best in every situation.  So this is me saying I'm going to make this a habit... I want to change this. 

To give myself some credit I'm a pretty positive person when it comes to my relationship with Joel.  I've changed a lot of negative self-talk that could easily make me angry with him, but I've chosen to look at situations and small things with a positive spin and choosing not to get angry or think the worst.  Somehow I've mastered this in our almost five years of marriage.  It has made me a much happier person, and it's something I'm damn proud of... I don't see why I can't plug it into the other areas of my life as well. 

So, while googling... I came across this website: and it's ah-mazing!  I honestly think it's just what I needed.

“If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.”      
-Mary Engelbreit

1 comment:

  1. ahhh, this spoke to me so much.

    i've been a bit of a negative nelly the past few days.
    it's wonderful women like you who help snap me out of it <3
    thank you!


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