Tuesday, October 23, 2012

our 5 year anniversary

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." 
-Lao Tzu


This year takes the cake.  It was simple, quiet and our gift to each other were words and promises.  My parents watched the boys while we went to dinner.  Afterwards we went to a quiet place on a hill, so we could watch the sunset on the water.  We laid a blanket down and read our letters to each other.

Looking at Joel, the sun was directly behind him with that perfect golden glow and haze.  Like something out of a movie.  He went first. 

"To My Best Friend,
   I can not believe how fast time has went by.  I love you so much.  You have given me so much in the past 5 years.  Two wonderful boys, who you are a great mother towards.  And of course you deal with me and all my drama.  I wouldn't change a thing in our story.  I'm proud to call you my wife and the mother of my kids.  You mean everything to all of us.  You keep this family together.  As we go through our day today, we will be both thinking about our little boys. We have became the best parents those boys could get.  And I would like to thank you because not only have they taught me to be a better father/person you have too.  I promise to uphold all my old vows for another 100 years.  As far as my new promises/vows to you they are the following:  I promise not to eat 10 packs of fruit snacks anymore, fatty fast food, and stop other bad habits etc.  I'm doing this to support you and to look after my health.  I love you.  I love my life.  I love my family.

Love Your FOR-EVVVEERRRR<----------------(forever)

I gave him a kiss and then read mine. 

"As I write my five year letter to you, I can hear you in the room next door feeding and talking to our two week old son, Jude.  The last time I wrote my vows, I was 30,000 ft. in the air… times have changed my love. 

You are still my best friend and better half.  You are the person that can make a room come alive.  And since I’ve married you, I’ve learned through the difficult times, that you somehow you always know the right thing to say.

Five whole years… 

I remember telling myself to take in every moment on our wedding day.  And I surprised myself with how calm and ready I was to be your wife.  I was so sure.  It feels good to remember just happiness and calmness on our wedding day.  

I remember our honeymoon and when you found that tire in the ocean and thought it was a dead body.  The moment when you deleted ALL of our vacation photos at that restaurant on the pier.  “Get that snatch” (This is where Joel started to laugh uncontrollably, which is a difficult task to accomplish with him) and the sushi place “Zero” where I thought I got… well, you know.  I remember laughing with you, riding bikes with you on the boardwalk and sleeping on you during the flight home. 

I love the crazy memories I share with you.  I honestly cannot imagine my life without you.  No one in this world compares to you. 

You are an amazing father, and husband.  I probably don’t say that nearly enough, but I am so proud that my son’s have you for a Dad. 

You work so hard to support our family and I am so extremely proud of you. 

And I don’t know if I’ve ever said it, but thank you for letting me be the mother I want to be.  I get to stay home with our boys and care for them… and it’s truly a gift.  I am so glad we are on the same page for so many major life decisions. 

And thank you for loving me.  I can honestly say I love you more today than the day I married you.  I remember when I use to be unsure how love changes during the years, but the love I hold for you comes with a lot of trust in you, a lot of respect in you, a lot of difficult situations overcome, it’s a bit different from the day I said, “I do” but it’s just a more solid love for you that is strong and comes with a lot more wisdom. 
I still look at you from across the room and wonder how I got so lucky. 
I promise to love you forever. 

I love you with my whole heart Joel, 

To love and be loved...

After we read our letters, we kissed, hugged and walked back to the car so we could catch a movie together.  

It was the perfect 5 year anniversary.

*All images in this post were taken by Kim Long Photography


"Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime." -Dale Carnegie

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