Sunday, April 28, 2013

since we're talking acceptance & tolerance...

"Love is patient.  Love is kind."
-1 Corinthians 13:4
I've been wanting to share this for awhile.

Macklemore wrote this song.

The artist who's reached #1 on the charts for the youth of this nation, and I believe he's still in the top 10 for "Thrift Shop."  (It's hilarious by the way.)

I'm so ridiculously proud of our youth.  They are changing this world.  Yep... proud.

I read a blog post written by a young woman who went to a sold-out Macklemore concert in conservative, South Dakota.  When he spoke to the crowd and mentioned some might not like what he had to say in his next song... she said she held her breath waiting for people to walk out or an uproar.

What happened next surprised even her... the five-thousand something souls in that building cheered louder than they had all night.  They closed their eyes, raised their hands and sang with him.

"May you have a blessed life."

I really need to stop reading the yahoo comments.  I know the select few I read is not the majority voice of our nation, but it is disheartening reading words of hatred.  Hatred for a group of people.

The same hatred brewing in the hearts of the commenters' is the hate that fuels terrorism all over the world.

It's ignorant; it's hypocritical.

Today I spoke with someone who is Muslim.  He was very kind.  We laughed.

And at the end of our conversation he said, "may you have a blessed life."

I have never had those words spoken to me.  Not a blessed day, but life.

I value other cultures, I value diversity, I value tolerance and I value truth.

يجب عليك ان تظهر الاحترام لمشاعر الآخرين وأفكارهم...حتى لو كانت عكس ما تفكر وتشعر به تماما
Translation: "You should show some respect for what other people see and feel, 
even though it be the exact opposite of what you see and feel." 
- Luigi Pirandello

Saturday, April 27, 2013

on repeat

"Asleep by the Smiths
Vapour Trail by Ride
Scarborough Fair by Simon & Garfunkel
A Whiter Shade of Pale by Procol Harum
Dear Prudence by the Beatles
Gypsy by Suzanne Vega
Nights in White Satin by the Moody Blues
Daydream by Smashing Pumpkins
Dusk by Genesis (before Phil Collins was even in the band!)
MLK by U2
Blackbird by the Beatles
Landslide by Fleetwood Mac
Asleep by the Smiths (again!)"

-Charlie's mixtape
― Stephen Chbosky, "The Perks of Being a Wallflower"

“Play it fuckin' loud!” 
― Bob Dylan

“For those of you in the cheap seats I'd like ya to clap your hands to this one; 
the rest of you can just rattle your jewelry!” 
― John Lennon

“I used to think anyone doing anything weird was weird. 
Now I know that it is the people that call others weird that are weird.” 
― Paul McCartney

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Earth Day 2013 + how to grow an avocado tree

There is a great need for the introduction of new values in our society, where bigger is not necessarily better, where slower can be faster, and where less can be more.
-Gaylord Nelson


Yesterday I ignored the pile of dishes in the sink and headed outside with Jack.

Earth Day was the push I needed to plant our avocado tree (we grew from just a pit) and seeds I ordered from ebay.  

All of the projects we did yesterday cost me just a little over $6.
$2 on seeds
$3 on organic soil
$1 avocado (which we ate and then kept the pit) 
  • I saved four paper egg cartons for the germination process and cut off the top and sides.  
  • Then I used an exacto knife and made an "x" on the bottom of each cell to allow any roots to grow longer if they needed to.  Be sure and watch any littles... Jack actually ran off with my knife. 
  • I filled the cartons with dirt and then watered the soil.  I read somewhere that watering after you place your seeds can "disturb" them.  
  • Grab your seeds and follow the direction on how deep to sow them.
  • I used two seeds per cell so the odds are in my favor. 



I wanted to plant something fun for the boys, so I bought "tickle me" (mimosa pudica) seeds.  It's this sensitive plant that when you touch it- it's branch will close up.  Kids love these plants, so instead of paying the $20 for a "tickle me" plant, I found the seeds on ebay for a little over $2 (with shipping). 

While I did all this I really expected Jack to be more involved, but he was too busy exploring, playing with tree branches sticks and making ants into pets... which was fine- he was out in nature which is all I wanted. 


Next I planted our avocado tree.

I found out on how to grow an avocado tree by accident while googling.  It's super easy, but takes some patience. 
  • Wash pit under luke warm water.
  • Place three toothpicks in the sides at an angle to help suspend the pit in water while placed in a jar. 
  • You should place them so the top of the avocado seed is just above water while the rest is submerged.
  • Place in window.
  • Change water every so often and be sure to add water as needed. 
  • When the pit cracks, that's good!  It means it's starting to germinate. 
  • Soon a bud will grow in the middle, roots will sprout into the water and a small stem will emerge up the center.
  • When you get a few roots and they're a good length, it's time to plant your pit (around two months later, times many vary). 

I called Jack back over, because throwing dirt in a pot is easy.  He helped me fill the flower pot that I snagged from the curb for free.   I watered the soil, then planted the tree with the roots buried deep and half of the pit. 


Since we live in Ohio, our avocado tree will be an inside plant and it will probably never produce fruit. If you lived in the South, you could plant it outside (after it's strong enough), but it will probably take several years for fruit. 


Then I took my egg cartons and avocado tree into our sun room, which stays very warm and has a lot of sunlight.  I'll post a photo of our growing plants soon!  


And what's cuter than planting on Earth Day?  Jude in a cloth diaper!


What did you do for Earth Day?

Sunday, April 21, 2013


It made me laugh.
You can buy it here, but only if it's for me. 
I love me some etsy.

3 things you should never discuss at the dinner table:

politics, sex or religion

Sometimes I get so swept up in the moment, I share my unpopular opinion here and I know I'm offending someone.  

I even turned the comments on my last post- off, because I didn't want to fight or start a debate.  I was just stating my paranoid opinion that my husband shares with me (laughing) and I was scared what might come next (and I don't have the energy to deal with). 

To be completely honest, most of my best friends in this world are very far right.  They are my rocks, and the people I trust completely.  I don't want this place I call home to scare people off.  I want everyone to feel welcome (well almost everyone, I can't please the world). 

I don't want rage to swell inside you when you read my words... and I'm not sure if that's happened since my last post, but if it has- I'm sorry.  Because if we were eating dinner together, I'd never in a million years bring up politics, sex or religion.  

And if I did, I'd tread the water carefully and quickly drop the subject so we can enjoy ourselves despite our differences. 

While on the phone with my Mama last night, I asked her opinion on the Boston bomb suspects... and she seemed pretty solid they were guilty.  I told her our theory and I could hear the skepticism in her voice.  She loves me regardless.  And we quickly changed the subject.  

She is one of the most tolerant, outspoken Mama's I know... and I see more and more just how alike we are. 

photo source

Friday, April 19, 2013

Boston Bombing Conspiracy?

I don't believe everything I read or everything I see on the news.

And all this footage of the "suspects"... just doesn't sit right with Joel and me.  

Where is the motive?  
Where is the proof?  
Why are they still in Boston days after the attack?
Why is the public eating this up?  
Why is yahoo suddenly requiring pre-approval before they allow you to post a comment below their articles? 

The conflicting stories from people who are no longer in their life and those who knew them best... the rage and the conspiracy... the word "Islam" being thrown in the mix.  The missing wife and child of the first suspect who was killed... the RELEASING of their names to the public. 

The conflicting reports, the comments on yahoo saying "an innocent man wouldn't run" and the uncountable comments begging for his death and capture. 

I'm just going to throw this out there... if I was going to be completely honest with myself, if that was me in that boat, If all of America wanted me dead and was looking for me because the FBI was looking for me in tanks- I'd probably run like hell.  

In fact, if I was in that boat right now... I'd might even consider suicide, because If you know anything about the patriot act, you'd know the torture he's about to endure- innocent or not. 

Guilty until proven innocent (but that doesn't seem likely)... look at the left-hand side after the "suspect" is in custody from "random" posters on Yahoo.

Several hours later... those who either gave me a thumbs up or down on my theories after an article ran by yahoo and all comments (before yahoo started to censor).  I'm not alone in my thoughts.

At the end of the day most people will believe what they want to believe.
photo: source

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

look for the helpers

"We've all got meanness in us...
 but we have goodness too. 
And the only thing worth living for is the good."
-Billie Letts

    Yesterday with my lack of social media at my fingertips I didn't hear what had happened in Boston until my mother-in-law told us around nine last night.   

I watched muted images on her screen and longed to be home so I could read and look at the images and feel connected to what happened to my country.  But after baths and putting my babies to bed, Joel asked me to lay with him and he snuggled me close and told me to stay with him.  So I did.  I held onto what I have and I fell asleep in his arms. 

And today, after I made breakfast... I sat down to look at emails and read about what happened.  

Slow tears ran down my cheeks as I watched the "helpers" and read story after story of people who didn't run from the explosion but to the area to help those who were injured. 

I read how a man carried a child with no legs five blocks to an ambulance. 

And through all the hate that made this pain and hurt happen, I saw love and care from strangers... I saw more love than hate, and that's the first time I can say my heart was moved by the people than the hate behind the act itself.

My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to all those hurting because of yesterday.  You are not alone. 

Thursday, April 11, 2013


I have big dreams of going to Indonesia one day.

I talk about it like I'm going next year.  Joel shakes his head at me when I ramble about it.

I looked up plane tickets for four... and it's ohhh just $8000 something dollars and will take about two days of travel.

I'll be there someday, in the summer months.  And I'll stay there for awhile.

You should always dream and keep dreaming, even if it sounds ridiculously out of reach.

I dream of the day I'll step off the plane and onto Denpasar soil.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

spring is here

“Is the spring coming?" he said. "What is it like?"...
"It is the sun shining on the rain and the rain falling on the sunshine...” 
― Frances Hodgson Burnett

Jack & Jude eating breakfast on the wood deck for the first time this year.

How do you describe a rain storm that makes you feel alive?  
The sounds and smells and gushes of cool wind that enter the home are inviting and welcome.  
I never longed for Spring as a child, but as an adult I find myself soothed and revived by the season.
And as of late, watching a plant grow has become one of my favorite things. 

“In the spring, at the end of the day, you should smell like dirt.” 
- Margaret Atwood

The "tickle me" plant seeds I bought online last week for my boys arrived today.  I hope my green thumb continues to grow.  I want my boys to love planting like I do, and tomorrow we're making a special trip to Lowe's to pick up even more seeds for sowing. 

Here's to new hobbies, new loves and a good thunder storm that fills your house with life. 

Sunday, April 7, 2013

tea ball

I asked Jack if he was excited for tee-ball and he said he was, then he asked if we would be drinking tea there.

My silly boy.  I love his literalness and innocence.

"Jack comes in this morning, talking all normal... wakes me up and then I look at him and see this. I laughed so hard... looks like bunny ears coming out of his nose."

head-on collision

60 mph and in our line.  

My heart was beating fast as I gained control of our car and Jack was yelling at me wondering why I did what I did. 

Two seconds... 
That's all it would have taken to take our life.  So careless.  So fast.  An accident.  A mistake. 

“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.”
-Dr. Seuss 

It just wasn't our time. 

Jack this morning, barefoot in his pj's telling me it's finally summer. 

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

it was only a matter of time

And I may or may not have watched this 5 times... or more.

Monday, April 1, 2013


The more you eat, the less flavor; the less you eat, the more flavor. 
-Chinese Proverb

It's true.  Of all the foods I've ate in the last 48 hours the one that sticks out the most as delicious were the black raspberries from today. 

Yesterday I stuffed myself with the most unhealthy foods... I awoke today feeling horrible and swollen. 

Yes... you read that right- swollen (Joel laughed when I told him).  I baked a juicy, glaze covered ham for Joel's side of the family, and the sodium combined with all the other foods I ate really did a number on my body.

I was exhausted today.  I vowed to eat clean and healthy.

I started with an omelet full of veggies, black raspberries, a glass of milk, glass of water and a cup of coffee a bit later. 

Lunch was a big salad with a full avocado, 1/4 cashews, cherry tomatoes, purple grapes and a glass of milk. 

I had a banana and water for a snack and dinner was almost a repeat of lunch minus the avocado. 

I'm feeling much better, less swollen and the migraine I had has vanished.  I should go to bed soon to get the rest I need.

After I had Jude, all of my healthy eating habits went out the window.  I was pregnant with gestational diabetes and felt better at 35 weeks than I do now.  I controlled it by diet alone.  My energy was through the roof.

I've gained all the weight back, and I know I can do this... change.  And it's what I want. 

And I think God put Connie in my life to be that whisper in my ear... "take care of yourself."  

I'm currently building her a new platform for her website that is modern and interactive.  It's awesome, and she's become a dear friend of mine along the way.  She's like my book full of wise quotes (you all know how much I love quotes)... her words echo.  

Did I mention her blog is all about nutrition?  She inspires me in so many ways. 

Connie if you're reading this, you should totally write a book :)

Here's to new healthy habits.  Here's to a healthy life. 
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