Monday, June 24, 2013

Happy


The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.
-Benjamin Franklin 



I watched "Happy" the movie on netflixs today.

I'm a sucker for documentaries... research, different cultures, countries, happiness; all the things I love all rolled into one.
  • Did you know that social status, money, and success only account for 10% of your happiness?
  • 50% is your genetic make up
  • 40% is everything else and is within your control... like having close relationships and support from friends, family and the community.  It also talks about helping others, an active lifestyle, and "flow."
They also said that no matter how much money you make, you'll only gain short term happiness and you'll then adapt to that number and ultimately want more.  So no matter how many times you get a raise you'll adapt to that number and feel like it's not enough.

It also stated the obvious for those that dispute that money does buy happiness... saying if you compare the happiness levels of someone who makes 5,000 dollars a year to someone who makes 50,000... yes you're going to see a huge difference, but when your basic needs are met (10%), happiness depends on your genes (50%), and the other 40% is up to you. 

The movie made me think a lot about my parenting and the message I'm sending my boys.  Like Jack's need for a small toy every time we visit the store.  It was so easy to buy that $1 junk toy to keep him happy, but I'm feeding into materialism and also the false idea that things will make him happy.

So no more "things"... we're trading material rewards with family time (swimming, walks, catching lightning bugs, you get the idea).

And while we're being honest, today we had a small mishap with our bank account that I quickly resolved but while driving there I thought to myself (after watching the movie) that money does equal happiness.  I couldn't believe I was selling myself the lie I just watched a whole movie about!  I stopped myself from digging deeper into that thought and pushed myself to see all the good things I have in my life.  I feel a bit stunned that it came so quickly, and how strong the feeling was.  It's scary the things we train our minds to believe. 

So one of many steps to help myself and my boys, I've started a "count your blessings" ritual after prayers at bedtime, so the last thing my boys think of is all the things good in their life.  I think that's a great way to drift off to sleep.

Have you seen "Happy"?

What makes you happy? :)


2 comments:

  1. now i want to see this documentary! looks so good and right up my alley. i've been thinking about happiness A LOT this past month...and it's so true...we do have control of it...more than we think we do.
    you give your boys such a happy life, olivia. <3<3<3

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  2. I'm going to have to watch this! We are all searching for happy, aren't we. I would be Happy, if you came to visit me...lol

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